For most of us comparing ourselves to other people comes naturally. We can’t help but look at other peoples lives and wonder how we can achieve the same level of luxury, good looks, parenting skills, job and even followers. And let’s be honest… We want it as quickly and easily as possible.
None of this, of course, does anything for our self-esteem or confidence and thus destroying the love and appreciation for what we have already achieved and worked so hard to get. So how do we stop comparing ourselves?
LOOK AT YOURSELF
First and foremost, the only person you should compare yourself to is your yourself. Look at how far you’ve come since last year or the last 15 years.
What have you achieved? What have you learnt? Where have you been?
Practising gratitude and being kind to yourself is a great way to acknowledge your best moments. What are you happy with NOW?
The comparison with Me, Myself and I is the only one that needs to be focussed on.
NOTHING IS WHAT IT SEEMS
What you see on social media and in the street is a small snapshot of someone’s life. You can never tell what someone is really going through.
You cannot wish and compare to be someone else if you don’t know everything about them, who they are or how they got what it is you so desire.
WHAT DO YOU GAIN FROM IT?
Comparing what you have and what someone else has will do zilch. It won’t help you gain anything by wishing. What you need to do is go and get it. Work hard, put everything you have into it. Otherwise, do you deserve it? Nothing that’s worth having ever comes easy.
No matter how much you think you know about people, you’ll never know the true ins and outs. The important thing to take away from this is to remember that the only person you should really be focussing on is yourself. Rather than looking at what a stranger is doing to better themselves, what are you doing?